Monthly Archives: May 2009

Growing means accepting blame

Carl Rogers, the father of humanistic psychology, said that people are fundamentally motivated by two things: to develop and to be loved. However, sometimes these two desires can be incompatible. For example, you plan to move away to get the job you’ve always wanted, but your family is not too keen on the idea and they let you know their opinion in no uncertain terms. Continue reading

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The ladder of inference, or how misunderstandings arise

You happen to walk past a colleague on the street, you say hello but he doesn’t answer. Your first reaction is to feel slighted and think that he has deliberately ignored you. You then try to explain what’s happened: “It’s because I didn’t back him up in a meeting the other day”. Continue reading

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